By Tony Deblauwe
Most of us have had a reason to hate a
co-worker. The reasons behind the lack of appreciation for another person
are too numerous to count. Sometimes
they make sense; other times, there is something indescribable that fuels ill
will.
A recent survey found that an incredible 93% of respondents admitted to hating their co-workers. Of those, one in four confronted the people who drove them over the edge.
The simple fact is that some people are just hard to get along with. They might be pushy or have annoying habits. Sometimes just the sound of a particular person’s voice is enough to send you home with a migraine. Even worse are the people who try everything they can, to avoid actually doing their job – these are some of the worst offenders.
No matter what the situation, there are things you can do to create a change in ways of working.
1. Determine The Cause For Hating Your Co-Workers
First, stop to think about why you hate the other person. If you have to make a list, it is advisable to do so mentally, rather than committing it to paper. If another person shares your feelings, you might have a discussion about why the hated co-worker bothers both of you, without resorting to a bashing session. This is a good opportunity to consider solutions that will improve the interpersonal dynamics of the workplace. The overall atmosphere is certainly more enjoyable when everyone can interact comfortably.
2. Are Your Feelings Based In Reality?
Once you have determined a specific reason for hating your co-worker, think about whether it is fair to hold them in contempt. If they have an annoying personal habit, perhaps it is better to just open your mind a little, and realize that people are individuals. If the habit is unsanitary, perhaps you can take it to the boss and make a case for healthy working conditions. Some people do not understand that the things they do or the way that they are is an irritant to others. Taking the higher ground to confront your perspective against what might be a root cause is critical.
3. Do Others Feel The Same Way You Do?
If you feel that your reason for hating a fellow employee is valid, there is a good likelihood that others share your feelings. Unless, the reason is deeply personal (failed office romance or friendship gone astray), talk to others you trust about the reason for your disenchantment. One reason some employees are unpopular is that they aren’t engaged or motivated about work. Certainly not your problem, but worth investigating.
If a co-worker never takes on his or her fair share of work and is a source of grumbling among the employee population at large, there is a good chance that you can help that person to either improve or find their way out the door.
4. How To Tell Your Boss That You Hate A Co-Worker
Usually, poor work performance is measurable in some way. Gather any documentation that you may have and make a beeline for your supervisor. Be sure to present your case in a professional manner. Avoid emotion, and use the facts to your advantage. If there are other employees who feel the same way you do, perhaps you can meet formally with your supervisor to discuss the problems caused by the substandard work performance of the person in question.
5. Last Resort: Turn The Other Cheek
If this does not work, you might consider turning the other
cheek and simply avoiding interaction with the person you dislike. While it may not be the best solution, it can
reduce stress and even improve the way others perceive you.
